Tid-Bits From Ben

“There is a certain way that a man stares at the woman he loves. The man looks like a boy on his birthday and he treats the woman like she was a gift that he has waited SO long to open, and now he can’t wait to see what the treasure is inside.”

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Wow!! What a neat analogy. Wouldn’t it be awesome if love worked that way every time?  I mean, wouldn’t be awesome if you we could all just find that perfect mate who treated us like the valued treasure that we so want to be?

Unfortunately for so many of us, we have to look far and wide for the one who is right for us.  Rather than focus on the negative of this process, I have been thinking of the positive side of this.  For those of you who are TCK, you can relate to the fact that you can learn so much from those you encounter each day.  Dating is no different.  As you meet new people with the potential of finding the partner for life, you learn SO MUCH about relationships, selflessness, and even love.

I think that is why dating was invented and important.  In the old days, you were simply placed with someone by your parents.  However, what if you weren’t made for each other?  What if that is not the person that was destined for you?  Isn’t it a tragedy that there are those around us who aren’t given the opportunity and privilege of choosing their life partner?

My challenge to myself and others is to embrace your freedom.  Don’t spend all your time looking for love.  No, let love find you.  This kind of goes with my post where I previously spoke of dating multiple people at once. While you are single, you are free to meet new people and develop relationship skills that will last through your marriage.  You can travel freely and meet people from other cultures.  You may even find another TCK!!  Whatever single means to you, look at the positive side of it, and not the negative side of it.  Because when love hits you, you will have the rest of your life to enjoy it!!

“So how does it happen, great love?  Nobody knows… But what I can tell you is that it happens in a blink of an eye.  One moment you’re enjoying your life, and the next you’re wondering how you ever lived without them.”